“Your walk talks louder than your talk talks”
This phrase I remember hearing over and over growing up, but how many times do I forget its message. What I do sends a much louder message than what I say!
“Do as I say and not as I do.”
Its ridiculous to ask that of anyone! Ridiculous and hypocritical, right?
How many times do we say one thing, but do another? I’m constantly telling my kids they can only watch so much TV in a day, but then I’ll plop on the couch when my work is done and watch enough TV to make up 5 days worth of what their limit is.
We know that children learn by imitation. They imitate our sounds to learn to talk, they imitate our movements to learn to do daily tasks. So why is it, that in some of the more important facets of life, do we forget this principle? You don’t want your child to talk bad about their friend. Do you gossip? You don’t want your child to curse, smoke, drink too much, lose their temper, etc. But do you do those things?
What about things you do want your children to do? Do you want them to respect you? Do you respect them? Do you want them to love learning? Do you love learning? Do you want them to take criticism and grow from it? Do you do that? Do you want them to settle hard matters without screaming and hitting? Do you fight with your partner calmly?
This principle of following in your parents footprints has been around for a long time. Even Jesus in the book of John chapter 5 verse 19 says, “Truly, Truly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of his own accord, but only what he sees the Father doing. For whatever the Father does, that the Son does likewise.” And He (Jesus) proved it to be true in the most dramatic way. The night before He was crucified, He prayed “Not my will, but Yours.” He had asked for a different way to accomplish what the cross would accomplish, but knew that there was none. Since there was no other way, He decided to be obedient to His Father even to a horrific and gruesome death. (As a side note, this also proves that God will never ask you to do something that He isn’t willing to do Himself.)
What kind of person do you want your children to turn out to be? What kind of person are you? Don’t forget to try and solve problems inward before trying to solve the problems outward.